10+ Tips to Survive Separation Anxiety in Babies and Toddlers

Posted April 25, 2018 by Julie in Parenting, TopPosts, Working Mom / 2 Comments

How to deal with Separation Anxiety in Babies and Toddlers


I know you might feel trapped when your baby wails every time you try to step away. Yes, it is rough. Yes, it makes you want to cry when your toddler is screaming for you to stay when you need to do daycare drop off and make it to work on time. But know that separation anxiety is a natural and temporary stage in child development.  Try some of these suggestions to help you and your family survive this separation anxiety period more comfortably.

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Understand Separation Anxiety

What is separation anxiety? Separation anxiety is fear or distress that children feel when they are separating from the people they’ve become attached to.

At what ages does separation anxiety occur? Babies tend to become clingy at about 8 months. Just when you think it’s over, a second bout is likely to start up at about 18 months. All this usually fades away by the second birthday.

Learn why children go through separation anxiety.  Children feel their survival is dependent on having a primary caregiver close by, and become very attached to that caregiver.

Think about the child’s psychology. Small babies lack enough experience to notice unusual events. It takes a while for them to realize that you are missing. At about 2 years old, they figure out that you always come back, and they also realize they like some independence.

Talk with your doctor. About 5% of children may need additional help to overcome anxiety. Your physician can recommend what to do if a child shows signs of physical distress or if a child over 5 has

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Parenting Strategies to Help Deal with Separation Anxiety

Say goodbye. You may be tempted to try sneaking away, but that will backfire. It’s less scary for your child if you make eye contact and say goodbye directly. Then go.

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Minimize drama. The best departures are brief. If possible, time them for when your child is well rested and fed.

Let your child get acquainted with other caregivers. Introduce babysitters and other caregivers prior to leaving them alone with a child for the first time.

Use a comforting object. Make it a ritual to give your child a lovey (a stuffed toy or blanket) while you’re gone.

Play games. Have fun with the experience. Tell older children where you’re going and what time you’ll be back. Quiz them on it later.

Offer rewards. Create something to look forward to. Share a hug and tell your child how much you missed them. Read a book together or make crafts.

Reassure your partner. Children generally focus on the parent they spend the most time with, so the other partner may feel left out. Discuss your feelings and support each other.

Plan for going back to work. If you can pull it off, you may want to let your baby’s comfort levels increase before scheduling your return to the office. Starting out with part-time hours can also ease the transition.

Rule out other causes. Children will outgrow most of this clinginess and crying on their own. But keep an eye out for any more serious causes of clinginess like fever or other illness.

Expect setbacks. Stressful events will make a child hang on tighter. Be prepared to provide extra comfort if your family is experiencing a major life change, such as a new sibling or moving to a new house.

Recognize your own anxieties. Children pick up on their parent’s thoughts. If you are calm and cheerful, your child will probably decide that everything is okay.

You’ll feel better if you remember that most children quickly get over their tears after you’re out the door. Be patient and look forward to the day when parting will be a lot easier for you and your child.

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