8 Tips for Taming Your Unruly Toddler

Posted July 25, 2018 by Julie in Parenting, TopPosts / 13 Comments

A mother’s love for her child is unlimited. But our patience? Well, even the most well-behaved children (aka unicorns aka they don’t really exist) can try a parent’s patience and the strong-willed kids? Well, they test and push our limits to the snapping point.

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Try these tips for dealing with toddler misbehavior:


Understand why children misbehave.

Children may misbehave when they’re hungry or tired. If you ensure they have eaten adequately and take naps regularly, you may have fewer tantrums to contend with. While this is easier said than done, realizing that a child might be overtired can help us parents deal with unruly behavior.

Children also misbehave when they’re feeling angry or frustrated, especially if they’re told “no.” We don’t want to give them everything they want, whenever they want it. But we expect that children throw tantrums when they aren’t given their way.


Give your children the attention they deserve.

Often, children misbehave because they’re seeking attention. Since they don’t know the difference between positive and negative attention, they’ll act out when they want you to notice them.

By giving children positive attention, you’ll reduce the tendency for them to act out. Spend as much time as possible with your children to provide plenty of positive attention.

I heard that you need to have five positive interactions for each negative interaction to balance it out. So stack the deck by creating simple fun positive interactions with your child.

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Praise positive behavior.

When parents have unruly children, they often focus on punishments and consequences. By praising or rewarding good behavior, you’ll be giving your child the attention they desire while also reinforcing good behavior.

Stick to a routine.

When circumstances are out of the ordinary, children will sometimes act differently. By sticking to a consistent daily routine, you’ll reduce the chances of that happening.

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Help your child understand expectations.


Set clear boundaries and ensure your child understands the rules.

Set rules and practice with your child following them at home. It’s easier to discipline a child at home when you can take your time and be patient.

If you can get your child to control his or her behaved at home, you’ll have an easier time getting them to do the same in situations outside the home.

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Change a child’s behavior by suggesting an alternate activity.

If your child is doing something you don’t want them to do, suggest an activity that’s more acceptable. This is called redirection.  It gives your child something more appropriate to do, and you’ll have corrected the behavior without anyone getting upset.

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Give your child choices.

If you let your children choose between two or three different activities, they’re likely to be more cooperative. Providing several choices increases the chances of you suggesting something that they would want to do.

Letting your kids make the decision, rather than just being told what to do, gives them a sense of power.


Avoid making empty threats.

If you threaten a punishment, you need to be prepared to follow through with it. If you fail to follow through with a threat, your child will learn how to take control of the situation. They’ll learn to wait for you to cave in, so they can get what they want.

When you follow through with your punishments, your child will learn that there are consequences for failing to follow the rules.

Whenever possible, be sure the consequences happen immediately. Avoid waiting until you get home, two hours later, to give a toddler a timeout. They’ll think they got away with bad behavior earlier, and they won’t understand why they’re being punished later.

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Ensure that your consequences are age appropriate. A general rule of thumb is to give a toddler a timeout that lasts for 1 minute for each year of their age. For example, a three-year-old can handle a 3-minute timeout, and a five-year-old can handle one that lasts 5 minutes.

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If your toddler is starting to get out of control, stay calm mama and remember these tantrum taming tips. Getting frustrated or angry will only make things worse for both you and your child.  Staying calm and using these strategies to tame your unruly toddler will most likely result in your child learning to behave and cooperate with you.

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13 responses to “8 Tips for Taming Your Unruly Toddler

  1. These are fantastic tips! My two toddler is is quite a determined little girl who does not like to be told “no”. We do a lot of balancing positives and negatives in this house.

  2. I am having a terrible time with my oldest. He is getting such a bad attitude. Thank you for sharing these. It was a good reminder of what I need to do to help him.

  3. Krystal Miller

    I always wonder why my daughter’s behavior slips when we travel. Then, I remember that we are throwing off her routine. It’s important to keep it in mind and not lose patience.

  4. Great tips! I think it is so important to understand why kids behave like they do, such as when they are hungry or tired. We need to give them grace when they have human emotions and help them out!

  5. I am a big believer in routines. I stick to them firmly. Even when we are out we leave to be home for bedtime. It’s important. When a parent gives an open threat children learn very quickly that you don’t mean what you say. They will remember that. You don’t want your child thinking you just say anything without meaning it. Words should have meaning behind them. Rachel from https://www.explorekidtalk.com/

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